Recommended Reading

Books our team returns to again and again.

You Don't Have to Be Wrong for Me to Be Right cover

You Don't Have to Be Wrong for Me to Be Right

A rabbi's memoir-driven case for tolerance across faith divides.

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Why Does He Do That?

A counselor to abusive men explains controlling behavior patterns.

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4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication

Practical listening and speaking skills for every relationship in your life.

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Come As You Are (Revised)

The science behind women's sexual wellbeing, updated with new research.

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Gottman's research-backed principles for lasting, harmonious marriages.

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Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child

A guide to helping kids understand and regulate their emotions.

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The Love Prescription

A seven-day, low-effort plan to rebuild connection with your partner.

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The Verbally Abusive Relationship

How to recognize verbal abuse and respond to it safely.

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The Whole-Brain Child

Twelve strategies for nurturing a child's developing brain.

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No-Drama Discipline

A relationship-first approach to discipline that builds emotional skills.

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Boundaries with Teens

Helping teenagers take responsibility for their choices and emotions.

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Boundaries with Kids

Raising children who understand healthy limits and consequences.

Codependent No More (Revised) cover

Codependent No More (Revised)

A classic guide to recognizing codependency and reclaiming your own life.

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Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Self-tests and research-based insight into what makes marriages last.

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Your Brain on Porn

An look at the neuroscience behind internet porn's effects on the brain.

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Is It Love or Is It Addiction

Distinguishing healthy love from patterns of love addiction.

I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't) cover

I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't)

Brené Brown on shame, vulnerability, and letting go of perfectionism.

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DBT Made Simple

A practical introduction to dialectical behavior therapy skills for clinicians.

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Transcending Trauma

An Internal Family Systems approach to healing complex and relational trauma.

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Getting Past Your Past

EMDR's creator on self-help techniques for processing difficult memories.

12 "Christian" Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy cover

12 "Christian" Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy

Untangling misapplied faith-based beliefs that fuel guilt and shame.

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Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Healing the lasting effects of growing up with an unavailable parent.

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The Female Brain

A neuropsychiatrist's look at how the female brain shapes thought and behavior.

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The Male Brain

Exploring how male brain structure shapes behavior across the lifespan.

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The Gaslight Effect

Spotting the hidden manipulation tactics known as gaslighting.

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The Man's Guide to Women

Research-based insight from the Gottman Love Lab on building connection.

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No More Mr. Nice Guy

Addressing 'Nice Guy Syndrome' and the cost of over-pleasing others.

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The State Of Affairs

Esther Perel rethinks infidelity and what it reveals about longing.

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The Porn Trap

A compassionate, practical look at problems caused by pornography use.

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The How Of Happiness

A science-based plan for raising your personal happiness set point.

The Gifts of Imperfection (10th Anniversary) cover

The Gifts of Imperfection (10th Anniversary)

Ten guideposts for wholehearted, authentic living.

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Mating in Captivity

Exploring how domesticity and desire coexist in long-term relationships.

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Healing the Shame That Binds You

Identifying and releasing toxic shame at the root of self-destructive patterns.

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Attached

How adult attachment styles shape the way we find and keep love.

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Self-Therapy Workbook

Guided exercises for practicing the Internal Family Systems process.

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Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual

A trauma-informed IFS training manual for anxiety, depression, and PTSD.

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No Bad Parts

Richard Schwartz introduces IFS and the idea of the multi-part mind.

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Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

A roadmap for recovering from childhood trauma and complex PTSD.

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Calming the Emotional Storm

DBT-based skills for managing intense, overwhelming emotions.

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Self-Compassion

Kristin Neff's research on why self-kindness outperforms self-criticism.

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Establishing Boundaries

Tools for recognizing manipulation and setting firmer personal limits.

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Try Softer

Moving from survival-mode overfunctioning toward genuine connection and rest.

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The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook

An eight-week, exercise-based program for building self-compassion.

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Rising Strong

Brené Brown on how we get back up after falling.

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The Let Them Theory

Mel Robbins on releasing the need to control others' choices.

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Stop Walking on Eggshells

Guidance for loved ones of someone with borderline personality disorder.

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Driven to Distraction (Revised)

An updated, foundational guide to recognizing and living with ADHD.

The Set Boundaries Workbook

Interactive exercises for putting healthy boundaries into daily practice.

The Self-Compassion Daily Journal

A guided journal for quieting self-criticism, day by day.

How to Keep House While Drowning

A shame-free, gentle approach to cleaning when you're overwhelmed.

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